Togusa shuts his eyes tight on his end of the phone, because he can see it, himself, so vividly. What do you even say to this? "Without context, it's not right to blame yourself over this. Is there any context that would make that sit well with you? Probably not. You aren't that sort of man. And you don't have to turn into that sort of man."

Togusa is careful not to aim his long sigh into the phone speaker. "I'm not going to judge you for it. If that's what you were calling here for, I'm not the person to give it. But if you have to live with his decisions, you also have to keep reminding yourself that they aren't your choices."